This is a question that I have often been asked, ‘Why did you write about sex…. ?’ My answer is simple – it’s not just about sex. Ok sex sells, but that is not the point of Hook Up.
The whole point of Hook Up is relationships; there are many various kinds of relationships which are frowned upon by some in society. You have the ‘normal’ as some would say, and I say, what is normal?
Think about it, what is a normal relationship….. Straight ? Why? Just because that’s what is preached to us day in day out? Gay, lesbian, polynomial, swinger’s etc, what is normal? In my eyes they all are. Who are we to judge how a person should feel and who are we to state who a person should love? Do we walk in other people’s shoes or have their feelings ?….no we dont. So in effect every relationship is normal if it’s what two or more people want and are happy with.
A relationship should be consensual for all involved and based on honesty, mutual trust and respect for what all parties want. It should be what is right for you and your other half not what is right in the eyes of the world.
A lot of people meet online now with all the internet access available. I myself have too and the most important thing I learnt with hook up sites is that they can encourage self – honesty, yes that’s right HONESTY…. That person behind the screen does not know you , they see your picture if it is a real one of you and vice versa, and when you start talking you find yourself suddenly opening up, speaking truths you never thought you would. Why? Because in reality the screen cannot judge you and before you realise you have a full blown conversation which,when you look back at it, you think,’Oh my god, did I say all that?!’ And guess what, you may feel mortified and shocked but you will also find you have a lot more inside you than you realised, and it can become addictive.
This is how Macy and Tobias meet and they take it to the next level. Macy, in her chats to Tobias, discovers she has a domineering streak and he encourages her to follow it. This works for both of them as Tobias has a fetish that he can’t tell his girlfriend about because he’s too scared to, but talking to a screen gives him the courage and opportunity to be honest – not just with Macy, but himself. I dare you, try a site and see how you open up almost without realising it.
Throughout HookUp Macy and Tobias find love. Yes they eat a lot….have you not been hungry after hours of fun? Yes they drink – don’t a lot of people drink ? And yes, sometimes excessively, but we don’t judge ; it’s life and that’s what we do we live, we laugh, we have sex, we eat and we LOVE.
This book is just about the normality of life for each and everyone – we are who we are and we love who we love.
REJECT PREJUDICE – EMBRACE HONESTY – CELEBRATE FREEDOM